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The Centrality of the Cross in Healing

The Cross
by André H. Roosma

At the Cross, Jesus carried the penalty of all our rebellion against God, all iniquity, etc. As such, it is the basis for God to do justice and yet be grace-full to us.
This essay explores what that means for people who have suffered severe abuse and for the counseling practice; . . .

Joyful living mother with child

Abundance of Life and Joy

on the way out from the valley of pain and depression

by André H. Roosma

In pastoral care I often encounter people who have become aware of some kind of trauma or trouble they experienced in their life. In many cases, this trouble started early and took away a lot of joy and energy from their lives – and often it still continues to steal their joy and energy. I know this also from my own first-hand experience. Trauma and all sorts of trouble - or re-emerging memories about it - can easily rob us of our enthousiasm and energy. As pastoral workers we easily fall into the trap of focussing all attention on . . .

Nourishing yourself – emotionally as well

– are emotions only nasty side-effects of our humanity or can they be nourished and renewed as well ?

(new! 2015-08-25)
by André H. Roosma

“Don’t be so emotional! It only creates trouble!”

“Strong emotions - such as anger, depression or fear - often get people into trouble.” Because of this idea, many churches and ministries here in the West teach it: emotions are not to be trusted. In Mental Health care, people are . . .

The heart of the Father for the vulnerable

– from performance-based to healthy relating and life-giving communities –

(new! 2015-07-22)
by André H. Roosma

“Men don’t protect you anymore”

text on NY cinema: Men don’t protect you anymore

Somewhere on the Internet, I came across the above picture. It shows a headline at a New York City cinema, early in the ’90-ies. It’s a tragic headline, I’d say. An important question is: Is it true? Do we, men, no longer provide protection anymore?
To protect – women, children, the vulnerable in general . . .

Modernism and the Friends of Job

– on modernism, postmodernism and the illusion of total human power –

(new! 2015-08-17)
by André H. Roosma

An English translation of an article that I wrote already a while ago in Dutch . . .

Righteousness, peace and joy in unity

Living as Children of the King

righteousness, peace and joy: keys to pastoral care and healthy living

by André H. Roosma

Living in the Kingdom of God, as His beloved children – what a mighty privilege, and what a great mandate! Such a great thing requires that we explore the Bible to see what God has in view when He speaks of this. I did such a survey and one theme, actually one verse, spoke to me in particular . . .

The Aaronic Priestly Blessing: God’s Shining and Proud Face

by André H. Roosma

Many times I have seen that scientists discover something, and then one recognizes that God has given us a similar advice in the Bible, thousands of years ago. This too, is the case with the deep meaning of a joyful, affirming and proud face of . . .

High Priest, blessing

Life Renewal - by a renewal of our mind, or...?

by André H. Roosma

When negative experiences have left their traces in our lives, or when we see how much better God has designed life to be, we can feel an intense longing for renewal in our life. I also think of how we can wrestle with specific sins, bad habits or addictions. Often I heard people sigh: “I whish I did that!” or: “I whish that I didn’t do this anymore!” Maybe you recognize some of this.
Then, the important question must be asked: How does change in our life come about in . . .

Inner Parent, Adult and Inner Child:

A brief review of Transactional Analysis in a Biblical Pastoral context

TA ego states: Parent, Adult and Childby André H. Roosma

As human beings we are influenced strongly in our speaking and acting by what we experienced in our first years of life. Many scientists have developed theories on the drives behind our actions. The Transactional Analysis by Eric Berne and others uses a metaphor of Inner Parent, Adult and Inner Child, as an instrument to gain more insight into these drives and to make conscious choices.
Below are some . . .

Difficult emotions, social-psychological ‘Games’ Karpman Drama Triangle with persecutor-, victim- and rescuer-role and the Karpman Drama Triangle

by André H. Roosma

Certain emotions can be difficult or even tough to experience. Powerlessness and fear, for example, are such feelings for most of us. We go to extremes not to feel these emotions. All kinds of addictions are used for example to numb the experience of these emotions. Especially if we have not been guided well as children in experiencing this kind of emotions, we may prefer to avoid them unconsciously.
The fact that many of us have learned early already to avoid their feelings – no longer feeling what they feel – may have painful . . .

Layers and the role of attachment in mental and social-emotional processing
- Part I: A unifying model
.pdf document,
- Part II: Recovery from painful experiences .pdf document,
- Part III: Attachment pain and addictions .pdf document and
- Part IV: The quest for a consistent life story .pdf document

 the author
by André H. Roosma

Part I .pdf document discusses the architecture of our brain and proposes a simplified model for our emotional and mental processing abilities. This model takes into account that those abilities have a layered structure and are heavily influenced by our connections with God and others, and the connections within ourselves.

In Part II .pdf document the model of Part I is applied to the processing of traumatic experiences and difficult emotions.

Part III .pdf document investigates attachment pain and the addictions and/or controlling that can result from trying to numb it.

Part IV .pdf document looks at our unconscious working models, schema’s or life stories that guide our behaviour. Often these are highly affected by trauma experiences. Here too, as in the previous parts, the model of Part I helps to get key insights into the dynamics of human behavior as well as keys to recovery. In that recovery, the presence of Jesus can play a vital role.

These observations are of vital relevance for anyone involved in helping people process and/or cope with traumatic experiences, or find freedom from addictions - both the unaccepted and the socially accepted ones.


“... So the opposite of addiction is not sobriety. It is human connection. ...”


“... we have destroyed the essence of humanity: our connectedness ...”

“There can be no nature without spirit, no world without Torah, no brotherhood without a father, no humanity without attachment to God.”
Abraham Heschel,
I Asked For Wonder, p.128.


Hallelu-YaH - all honor to YaHUaH
Do explore this great website with Bible-materials and in-depth articles that glorify God.
For Bible study I use:
theWord Bible Software
– it’s great!

The power of words

A great brief / video by Seth A. Gardner, at OurChurch blog (also at YouTube), with BIG message in less than 2 min. ... Very touching and creative and providing deep communication insight!

Suggestions welcome!

I encourage you whole­heartedly to send me any of your ideas, comments, experiences or other sug­gestions that might be of interest to Christian counselors. I may then decide to publish these with your consent, or to amend the material that is already here according to your comments.
Questions on pastoral themes are welcome as well. I may devote a subsequent article to a subject about which I see that several questions exist.
More background info, including some on my goals and approach, you will find on the page with backgrounds of the Accede! initiative.


More information

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Thanks for your interest!

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